This miscarriage outreach ministry is consecrated and dedicated to the One Almighty God.





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ACTS OF KINDNESS

For Friends and Families Concerning the Grieving Process of a loss of a Child from a Miscarriage

  • Say "I'm sorry for your loss."
  • Listen to the parents.
  • Cry with the parents.
  • Comfort the parents.
  • Say prayers.
  • Give hugs.
  • Send cards.
  • Bring meals into the homes.
  • Write words or notes of encouragement.
  • Give flowers.
  • Encourage time off work.
  • Support the father and mother.
  • Offer to help.
  • Offer to babysit the siblings whenever they need help.
  • Give monetarily for the parents' needs and wants (committal service, naming service, memorials, Christian burial, or funeral service).

 

Created by Kristi Warne
© 2007 The Mysterious Miscarriage Sisterhood, Inc.

 

ACTS OF KINDNESS

For the Parish Community Concerning the Grieving Process of a loss of a Child from a Miscarriage

  • "I'm sorry for your loss."
  • Say prayers.
  • Listen, comfort and cry with the parents.
  • Give monetarily for the parents' needs and wants (committal service, naming service, memorials, Christian burial, or funeral service).
  • Offer to provide babysitting for the siblings whenever they need help.
  • Give hugs.
  • Give cards.
  • Bring meals into the homes.
  • Write words or notes of encouragement.
  • Give flowers.

 

Created by Kristi Warne
© 2007 The Mysterious Miscarriage Sisterhood, Inc.

 

The Rights of Parents

For Parents Who Have Experienced the Loss of a Child from a Miscarriage

  • Parents have the right to the baby's body after a miscarriage.
  • Parents have a choice (most of the time) if they want the body to go to a lab for pathology purposes.
  • Parents have a choice if they want the baby to have DNA testing.
  • Parents have a choice concerning committal of their child's body: the hospital's cemetery plot or the local cemetery.
  • Parents have the choice to bless their dead baby with holy water. This is not the sacrament of baptism.
  • Parents have a right to hold their dead child.
  • Parents have the right to name their dead baby.
  • Parents have the choice to plan an unbaptized child's funeral or memorial service at the local church. It is a myth that a funeral is expensive for a baby.
  • Parents have the right to pick the most respectful funeral home for their child's services.
  • Parents have the right to grieve and mourn the death of their child.

 

Created by Kristi Warne
© 2007 The Mysterious Miscarriage Sisterhood, Inc.

 

Be Prepared Parents

For parents experiencing the loss of a child from a miscarriage

  • Parents should be prepared for unintentionally hurtful comments, including the following: Something was wrong or defective with "it" (the baby). Well it might have been deformed or had special needs. At least you have a child. You must have enough children. You can try again. You are young. No time like tomorrow to try again. At least it was early. How many weeks along were you?
  • Parents may experience that people say nothing because they don't know what to say.
  • Parents need not hesitate to tell people their story. When your story is told others will hear and open up and share their stories.
  • Parents should not be afraid to tell people that they are tired, or need a little quiet time.
  • Parents have the choice to tell immediate family members of their loss, or to invite them to the child's memorial service.

 

Created by Kristi Warne
© 2007 The Mysterious Miscarriage Sisterhood, Inc.

 

ACTS OF KINDNESS

For the Christian Medical Personnel

  • Say "I'm sorry for your loss."
  • Some patients have religious or personal beliefs that the "it" or "tissue" is a baby that they have just lost to the miscarriage. Please be sensitive to their needs.
  • Give information on what to expect from the miscarriage experience.
  • Give choices to the parents on funeral and burial rites. The hospital mass burial service is healing yet other choices are available.
  • Please do not say, "At least you can get pregnant."
  • Recognize that some parents are in the beginning stages of the mourning process.
  • Let the parents see and hold the baby if that is their request.
  • Please do not say, "There is no need for a D&C. Your womb is empty."
  • Please do not say, "At least it happened this early."
  • Please do not say, "We will send the tissue to lab."

 

Created by Kristi Warne
© 2007 The Mysterious Miscarriage Sisterhood, Inc.
The "Acts of Kindness" and "Be Prepared Parents" were created as a result of a survey, the collection of stories, and interviews conducted by Kristi Warne.